Whenever I mention the word “boudoir” to girls, I always see their eyes light up. And just as fast their eyes light, they immediately dim. Boudoir, for good reason, make girls nervous. Heck, it makes ME nervous! So I totally understand. The thought of being in a room with only lingerie on can be daunting. Add on top of that, a photographer pointing a large black lens in your face. Horrific right? But I can tell you one thing: most girls I’ve talked to have thought about getting a boudoir shoot done. However, there’s usually a couple of things stopping them from truly doing it. The major factor being how they view their own bodies.
Before I get into this, let me just say that this post isn’t to talk about body image nor am I going to make you change your minds about how you think you look. I’ll speak to my own experiences a little bit, but this post is mainly to introduce you to the PROCESS of a boudoir shoot. At the end of this post, my goal is for the girls reading this to think maybe boudoir as something not as daunting as it seems.
In my idealistic early 20’s, I had a vision for myself. I knew I needed to be a certain size and I knew when I should get married to leave time to have two children. The married and children thing, let’s not go into that in this post. But in my younger years, I remember feeling like I was never thin enough. Now fast forward a decade later (OK…now you all know my age…grrrrrreat), when I stumble on pictures of myself in my 20’s, I think, “Wow, I looked pretty good back then!” And I now know this will only continue throughout my years. In my 40′s I’ll yearn for my 30′s, in my 50′s I’ll long for my 40′s and so on.
Look, I’m a lot more mature than when I was in my 20’s. But somewhere buried deep inside my self confidence is still a little bit of that 20 year old’s insecurity. I know I’ll never be my ideal size, but I know for a fact that I can’t dwell on it. Because before I know it, my 30’s is going to just pass me by while I’m spending it thinking about how I could look. My goal this year is to put my insecurities aside and finally bite the nail to do a boudoir shoot for myself. The thought of it still haunts me a little bit, but I’m ready to face the experience.
And it is an experience. When I do a boudoir shoot, I tend to talk about it as an experience for the woman. I encourage my clients to not only look classy (and sexy) but also FEEL sexy from within. Whether it’s getting hair and make-up professionally done before the shoot or going out and hunting for new lingerie or getting a facial and a massage the day before. This is all a process in itself to help us not only look, but feel beautiful from within. I don’t know about you but whenever I get my hair professional blow dried, I instantaneously feel 10 pounds thinner and prettier.
The process doesn’t end there and it’s not just your responsibility. As a photographer, I’m responsible for making you feel at ease during the shoot. If you don’t feel at ease, your guard comes (swooping noise) way up and you immediately lose confidence in yourself. When I’m in a room with you at your most vulnerable, trust is a huge thing. And trust me when I tell you that through tricks in lighting, posing, camera composition, and my skillful ninja maneuvering that I will make you look your best.
The honest truth is we as women are so concerned with how we COULD look, we often forget how beautiful we DO look. Let’s not waste time self criticizing for another 10 years before looking back and realizing how beautiful we truly were. Let’s capture this moment, at your best, to cherish forever. Boudoir sessions are one of my favorites to shoot because I feel that it EMPOWERS women. Whether you are a size 2 or a 22, you ARE beautiful. Trust me and let me show you how stunning you can be. Email me for more information on a Boudoir with Cindi session and if you’re interested (and brave), I might share my own boudoir pictures with you.